![]() Frankly, this sounds like a greater sacrifice than it really was. ![]() So when I turned thirty-four and deemed myself ready to start a family, we discontinued our playing ways. Each of us was concerned about continuing to play while at the same time raising a family. Throughout all of our sexually playful years, we knew that we would eventually have to cut back. We told ourselves that it was mostly to save on expenses, but truth is we had become really, really good friends as well as lovers. Then, growing more adventuresome, we began to meet and play with other couples through a quasi-underground swingers group on campus.Īt the start of our second year of graduate school, we moved in together. From time to time, we would include either Luisa or Brad in our play (but never both at the same time). So, even though Luisa and Brad parted ways, John and I continued to meet, mostly for outrageously fun sex. He viewed sex as the same playful activity that I did and was a very talented lover. I was far from falling in love with John, but the foursome had cast him into a different light. I think they were getting bored with one another even before we played around, so I wasn't terribly surprised. Shortly after the orgy, Brad and Luisa parted ways. One thing led to another and we all wound in bed sucking and fucking together in every way imaginable. We had been drinking quite a bit that day and the evening's discussion had turned to sex. Towards the end of our senior year, the four of us engaged in a foursome of sorts while visiting the cabin. So, John was a convenient social companion for me (and I like to think I returned the favour). Frankly, I really didn't want the distraction of a boyfriend in school. We really didn't see each other unless it was in the context of going somewhere with Brad and Luisa. In that time, John and I were often thrown together socially as we each independently tagged along with our respective friends, either to concerts or on trips to Brad's family's cabin on a nearby lake. His roommate, Brad, dated a girlfriend of mine, Luisa, for a couple years. "There are a number of organisations that offer generalist counselling for people who want to change unwanted behaviours, including alcohol and other drug use, gambling or other addictive behaviours, which could include sex addiction," the spokesperson said.Today, John and I are your average, middle aged couple with two busy careers and two rambunctious children. ![]() Latrobe Community Health Service offers drug, alcohol and gambling addiction services in Gippsland.īut a spokesperson for the organisation said there were no services in the region that exclusively treated sex addiction. "It's a big effort to find the right support." Shortage of specialists "It's not perfect online, but it definitely fills a gap that just wasn't available for us locally," Eliza said. They eventually both found CSAT's available right away, based in Sydney. With local mental health hotlines confirming there were no services locally, Eliza contacted a psychologist who said they needed to find a certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). " world had come undone, so he was collapsing, so caring for someone who is having suicidal ideation and trying to work out how get the best help," Eliza said. The process of finding help for both Eliza and her husband was not straightforward. "To have conversations with other partners has been a huge relief." ![]()
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